If you’re just now viewing these posts, I implore you to revisit my last article, which is Part One of this paper. Entering into the conversation now will simply just leave you, the reader, confused. In this article, I will reveal to you more of my essay on Oscar Wilde.
During this time, in the states, it was an obligation to indulge in fantasies, including homosexual ones, in certain communities. Again, in the principle of “art for art’s sake,” ‘Feelings counted for nothing, only physical orgasms” (Mitchell ¶5). From the perspective of the man Wilde found himself intensely and almost cripplingly drawn to, Alfred Douglas discloses who Wilde truly was. In “…never committing himself to what might be considered a serious theory…,” (Douglas ¶1) Douglas showcases his understanding that he has Wilde around his fingers and can dominate him without heed. Perhaps it was Douglas’ nonchalant dominance that became a fixation for Wilde, in that others were enthralled by him regardless of what he would do or say. Perhaps it was the chase that Wilde thought would free himself from metaphorical (or perhaps literal) bondage. Being in submission and vulnerability, Wilde, in his inconsistent inconsistency, may have meshed the emotion and physical aspects of sex and fun – ultimately being a sort of his demise.
There are two reasons as to why meshing the two aspects of sex and fun would lead to one’s demise: it is both that it lacks the fundamental of aestheticism, as well as creates a danger with the Marquess‘ growth in understanding of the relationship between Douglas and Wilde. Wilde was put on trial for his transgression of indecency, as he spoke lovingly and romantically of Douglas in his letters, and was imprisoned for said acts (Montgomery 5).
Yet, all the while in his fun and sexual endeavors, he maintained a marriage with a wife who bore him two children. A marriage to a woman who, ironically was named Constance, through his inconsistencies. Understandably, during the trials, Constance sought separation, yet could not seem to divorce him, nor harbor bitterness to him, as she advises her children to maintain relationship with their father (Williams 8). As if bound by the same force that bound Lord Douglas to Wilde’s fancy, Constance was enamored with Wilde – regardless of his sin. Once more on the same page, the quote is given, “For each man kills the thing he loves…” Whatever the reason for his inconstancy, her faithfulness may have enabled him to continue his rugged lifestyle. It is quite possible that she, herself, could not see past the pains of adultery and fell into a state of passive aggression. When he desired to, once more, care for her and their relationship, he was unable to due to his sentencing in jail. Unfortunately, amends was never made, as she passed before his sentence was over – to which he responded with love and regret, understanding his folly and the pain he caused her (Williams 8). Wilde shows us how absolutely destructive we as humans can be, both mentally and physically, if constructs and regulations are not present in our lives.