The past few days, months, and years have been spent trying to figure out what to do with my life. I feel directionless, motionless, and sad because it seems that no matter how hard I think about it, I will never find something that will be the perfect occupation for me. The perfect pay, the perfect job, something I won’t get tired of, etc…
As I was reading an article by The Huffington Post, entitled “20 Tips to Make the Most of Your 20s,” I discovered an emotion I wasn’t expecting: anger.
The tips in the article are basically from people who have made it big in their respective fields. These are people who are Editor-in-Chiefs, CEOs, Founders and Co-Founders of businesses, among other things. And they all give you advice about how to make the most of your youth.
Now, that’s not what makes me angry. That’s all fine and dandy. In fact, a lot of the tips are helpful, like the ones I’ll quote below for an example.
“2. Don’t waste your time in a job you hate. “Find a job that you’re excited to wake up and go to every morning. And if you can, save a little money! Having a little financial freedom will allow you more room to pursue your passions freely.” – Chelsea Brownridge, Co-Director and COO, Ignite Good”
“12. Look ahead. “Being behind isn’t about comparing yourself to other people. You’re behind in your 20s if you can’t get the life you want for yourself by your 30s or 40s. Dare to be intentional with your life, and to be real with yourself about what you think you may want in 10 years. If that’s too scary, ask this question: If I keep living my life exactly as I am now, do I like where I’ll be in five years? If not, then something needs to change because that’s where you’re on track to wind up.” – Meg Jay, clinical psychologist and author of The Defining Decade: Why Your 20s Matter – and How to Make the Most of Them Now”
The thing that makes me angry is that these people do not explain how they got where they are! They give you tips that you’ve heard before – but give you no means to turn these nice, pretty tips into real life, stone hard actions.
I assume a lot of it was luck for them, hard work, and a goal. That’s the thing though. Many of us, in our 20s, don’t have that. And we’re left trying to figure out the rest of this big, scary world all by ourselves.
It makes no sense, yet everyone is forced to do it.
I suppose I can only introspect more to find out my purpose. The same goes for you, if you’re currently in a position where you don’t know what the heck you’re doing.